gobbletygork

New York, June 2, 2006?

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I don't get what's happening...posting is now impossible.

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I don't get what's happening...posting is now impossible.

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The strategy to fight Cafasso's online harrassment, stalking and threats is emerging. You can see Causal Nexus talking about it, 10-31 and others.



This kid talks about how he was harrassed by a bully at school, and how he ended up winning over him.

That is what our strategy is. We are not victims of this man, we are his 'opponents'. To me, Cafasso isn't a 'bully' -he's a STALKER. With a STALKER, a stalker gets kicks out of invading peoples' privacy and causing them fear. Cafasso has already proven that he's dangerous, but the problem is...you can't believe a single word he writes or says.

There is one stalker, and one victim. The stalker gets his jollies by causing fear.

So let's stop being afraid. I think the blogs that have gone up are the beginning of a turnaround in how people are starting to respond to this man. Regardless as to the names of his 'victims', the man thinks that by instilling fear into his opponents, he can get them to do his bidding.

But the kid in the video learned that you don't have to bow down to someone's perceived powers of persuasion when they're using bullying techniques. The best thing to do is...stand up for yourself.

How to Stop Stalkers

• Take Action
  Start telling others about the stalker. Even if you have responded to him positively in the past, don't let that stop you from taking action now. Tell people what is going on. If you did go out with him, it was a mistake, but you can fix that. Everyone is allowed to make mistakes. Learn from it and move on.
• Keep a Diary
  Record every incident, no matter how trivial. Stalkers use the triviality of their actions as a defense: "What, I'm not allowed on a public street?". You need to establish a pattern of behavior. Record dates, times, places, witnesses, phone numbers, addresses, everything you can think of. If this problem has been ongoing, record previous events to the best of your ability. Record every incident as it happens. Call the police every time you are contacted. They may say they can't send a police car or an officer for an obscene phone call. If that happens, say "Yes, I know; I just need you to make an official note of this incident so I can prove a pattern of behavior."
• Get More People Involved
  Contact your local women's center and tell them you're being stalked. Bring in your record of the incidents. Advocates who work at women's centers have experience with stalkers, and may even know the person who is bothering you. They also know the police, the sheriff, and the county prosecutors. They will have resources, contacts, and advice that will help immensely. They will know the laws in your state, county, and city. Once you involve professionals in this problem, the situation changes from you against the stalker to the System against the stalker. My information is based on what I know about the laws in Minnesota. Please contact a shelter or crisis center in your town for the best help and information.
• File a Restraining Order
  If the stalker is a stranger, you can file a Harassment Restraining Order (HRO), which is used when you don't have a significant or legal relationship with the other person. Make sure that your advocate helps you fill out the forms, using your documented patterns of incidents. A judge will look over your application, see how many times you have been bothered, and will grant or not grant your HRO request. When it has been granted, every incident of stalking is considered a violation of the order and is a crime.
• Facts about HROs
  • Make sure your advocate tells you what an HRO can and cannot do. Statistically, when an HRO is served, that can be the most dangerous time for you. Work with your advocate to make sure you stay safe. Evaluate the level of danger and make a safety plan accordingly.
  • Many times, an HRO will cause a power shift in the relationship, and the stalker will leave you alone. It's not fun for him anymore, because you are no longer a safe and easy target.
  • Remember that a restraining order will not stop a stalker who doesn't care about it. The advantage to an HRO is that it will mobilize all of law enforcement to be on your side. The police must pay attention and respond to any violation of the order.
  • Penalties for violating an HRO will vary, depending on your state or country. Repeated violations may result in harsher penalties. Remember, the more violations he has on his record, the better your case.
  • The HRO is between your stalker and the judge. If the stalker violates the HRO, he is violating the judge's order, not yours. The only way the order can be modified is if you go to court to change it.
  • The HRO is against your stalker, not against you. Sometimes the stalker will threaten, "I'll show up where you are, then I'll report YOU for violating the HRO!". Sorry, no, the HRO is one way only. It's impossible for you to violate the HRO. Sometimes a judge will order mutual HROs, against both parties, but this is rare. Incidentally, if the stalker makes a threat like that, he has already violated the HRO. Report it.
  • No witnesses? His word against yours? After the HRO is granted, that doesn't matter. The police have to believe you.
  • Continue to report every single incident, no matter how small. If you don't report every incident, the stalker may begin pushing the boundaries, seeing how far you will let him go before he gets into trouble. Develop a hair-trigger response and report the slightest violation.
• Be With Other People
  Stay with others as much as you possibly can. If an incident occurs, you will have plenty of witnesses. Statistically, you are much safer in a group anyway.
• Don't Show Fear
  Refusing to show fear may be one of your best weapons. The stalker enjoys causing fear. Talk to your advocate about your specific case to see if this would be a good approach to take.

Follow these steps and you can stop stalkers. If we all work together we can make the world a safer place.

I think this is sound advice. Those people who are on the blogs should be picking up their phones and going down to the police station to file harrassment restraining orders on Cafasso. We can use the address at the Senton Hotel and the address in Carteret New Jersey that he's not living at anymore.

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Did you?

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Here's the most recent on Joe Cafasso according to my searches and checking the circle of friends who are togther with me in the quest to reveal the truth.

10-31 has two new posts that are very noteworthy

Joe Cafasso and the Clipper Ship Story

L'État, c'est moi

And I'm not going to link to the particular posts, but keep an eye on Carteret Con Artist.

And the newest addition to the group, Hell Has Come With it.

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And if this doesn't capture the essense of Joe Cafasso's Walter Mitty world, I don't know what makes the man tick. And I think we're all getting a pretty good idea of what makes him tick, don't you?

H/T YWNM

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On the Lower East Side he is Cafasso! In Little Italy, he's Big Joey Mosca. When he steps into the Village, he is Jay Mosca! When he pulls into Louisiana after Katrina he's Jay Cafasso! When he hits the steps of the St. Patrick's Chancery for the Catholic Charities - too close to the UN - he is Lt. Col Blackwood!

That little blurb is from The Way I Like It, but I think I saw it somewhere else on one of these other blogs. We're all going to be bringing this stuff up, I'm convinced of that. Imagine it what it would be like to be pretending to be another individual with another name and another set of credentials. (Although Blackwood and Cafasso are very similar; one has a degree from Texas A&M and the other has a degree from Brown-something he stole from his dead father's resume.) I just find it hard to wrap my head around this one. What a twisted life he must lead--no wonder some people are concluding he's an absolute psycho!

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